Avoid the Comparison Trap
By Andrea Merrell
Comparison. A road that leads straight to
frustration, discouragement, jealousy, and even anger. A trap.
- “I’ve been writing for twenty years and can’t get published. She’s been writing for three and already has two books in print.”
- “He has over a hundred reviews on Amazon. I only have ten. What gives?”
- “Why did she get chosen over me to teach that class? I have more experience and know more about that subject.”
- “My writing is as good as his. Maybe better.”
- “Why did she win the contest instead of me?”
- “Why are those people always in the spotlight? It’s not fair.”
Believe it or not, I’ve heard all these comments over the years. Unfortunately, it’s part of our human nature to compare ourselves with others, but it leads to nothing but trouble. One writer says comparison is not only unwise and unfair, it creates negativity—not only in us but in the people around us.
The truth is no matter what we do in life, there will always be someone smarter, faster, or better. Some people are gifted with certain skills while others have to work long and hard to perfect their craft.
Each of us has a different skill set. God created us as unique individuals and gives us the ability to express ourselves in different ways. While I love writing fiction, I admire others who create amazing new worlds in sci-fi and for the YA market. Those are not in my bailiwick. Neither is writing children’s books, expressing myself through art, or organizing and directing a major conference.
His plan, purpose, and timetable for us will differ from that of fellow writers. The key is to be content with who we are and where we are and to stop looking around at what others are doing. Peace and fulfillment come when we concentrate on what He has called us to do.