Two Words that Hamper a Writer’s Gratitude
By Joshua J. Masters
For Christian authors, it’s impossible for our work to have lasting impact if it’s born from bitterness or pride. Gratitude is the nonnegotiable starting point for serving God in our craft.
How
many of us have stopped writing in the middle of a sentence, agonizing in our
quest for the perfect word? We understand the importance and the power of using
the right words. But many of us consistently overuse two words that are the
enemy of gratitude and stunt our growth as followers of Christ—two words we
should remove from our vocabulary if we want to write with a grateful heart.
Those words are have to.
“I have to work on my book.”
“I have to edit my first chapter.”
“I have to prepare for that writing conference.”
“I have to read my Bible.”
“I have to go watch my kid play a tree in a fourth-grade production of Winter Celebrations and grumble about how it used to be called The Christmas Extravaganza.”
Most of the time we say, “I have to,” we should actually be saying, “I get to…” or “I choose to...”
If we’re honest, there aren’t that many true have
to situations in our lives. But using that phrase reveals our attitude
toward our writing, our relationships, and the circumstances of our lives.
I GET TO…
The blessings we count as burdens in our writing life are not have to moments, they’re our get to moments. Remembering that is a great way to change our attitude, which leads to deeper personal contentment and a more fulfilling career as a writer.
Yes, sometimes the good things in our lives can be inconvenient, but we should avoid using the words “I have to” or the so-called inconvenient will transform into bitterness. Instead, we should use the words “I get to.”
“I
get to work on the book God has given me.”
“I get to edit the first chapter God gave me.”
“I get to prepare for that writing conference God is allowing me to go
experience.”
“I get to read my Bible and build my relationship with God.”
“I get to see my child play the actual rock in their annual Plymouth Rock pageant.”
I CHOOSE TO…
There’s another way we misuse those two forbidden words. We use them to cover the unhealthy (or at the very least, unproductive) choices we make, the things that impede our writing career and threaten our relationships. Those moments are rarely I have to decisions either. They’re I choose to decisions.
We
prefer to say, “I have to,” because it justifies our behavior. We can feel
better about a lack of productivity if we frame it as a cosmic happenstance
rather than our own choices, but most of the time we’re misleading ourselves.
It’s
not, “I have to watch Grey’s Anatomy
and then I’ll get to my writing.”
It’s,
“I choose to watch Grey’s Anatomy
instead of writing.”
It’s
not, “I have to go out with my friends. I’ll edit this weekend.”
It’s,
“I’m choosing to go out with my friends. The editing can wait.”
It’s
not, “I have to hit my word count. I don’t have time to read the Bible and pray
today.”
It’s,
“I’m choosing to make my writing a bigger priority than my quiet time with
God.”
Some
of those choices may be appropriate occasionally, but be honest about them. Don’t
trick yourself into believing you’re at the mercy of circumstance when you’re
really making a choice.
I HAVE TO…
There are real have to circumstances in our lives, and we should honor them. When the phone rings in the middle of the night and you rush to the ICU because there’s been an accident, that’s a have to situation. But don’t minimize those moments by applying the words to something trivial like watching a television drama.
Saying the words, “I have to,” is usually a crutch. We use them to undermine the blessings in our lives and avoid taking responsibility for our less-than-healthy decisions.
But if we want to grow in Christ, live a life of gratitude, and find meaning in the gift He’s given us to write, we must embrace our blessings and take responsibility for our choices.
If God called you to be a writer, He wants to do incredible things in your life. He wants to reveal His encouraging truth in and through you. We partner best with God when we’re willing to be as truthful as possible in that relationship too.
Stop
saying, “I have to,” when you should use the more honest, “I get to,” or “I
choose to.”
Then
watch how God transforms both your perspective and your writing. Gratitude
begins with the words we use so choose the words you say as carefully as the
ones you write.
(Photo courtesy of FreeDigitalPhotos.net, David Castillo Dominici, and Stuart Miles.)
Joshua J. Masters is a pastor, author, and speaker. He’s been featured on CBN Television, HIS Radio, and the Light Radio Network. Josh is the author of the Serious Writer Book of the Decade finalist, American Psalms: Prayers for the Christian Patriot and is a contributing author for Feed Your Soul with the Word of God. Josh has also worked as an actor and crew member in the film industry (SAG/AFTRA) and continues to have a passion for film. He lives with his wife, Gina, and Franklin the Pup outside Greenville, South Carolina where he serves as a speaking and care pastor.
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What a great reframe, Joshua. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteI'm so grateful to hear you were encouraged by it. May the Lord continue to strengthen our hearts of gratitude.
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